What Happened?!?

07 November 2007
I do not know if anyone else has noticed the change in the MoHo world. This place used to be special to help those who are dealing with SSA and trying to find others who understand them. It was also a place of spiritual upliftment and help.

Quite frankly, it now seems to be the path from MoHo to MoHo whore to Homo. This is no good. It is now a place for people to find each other and hook up. It has also become really relaxed about every issue with the church and nobody is concerned with this!

I have been attacked on several occasions from people who I considered my friends because I expressed my beliefs. These did not come through posts on a blog but rather through nasty emails.

It just is not the same anymore. I wish that it was back to normal...


drex said...

It's a fairly natural progression in a community - the community segments into its specialized areas, sometimes to the exclusion of others. There's still a pretty strong pocket of us church-touting bloggers, but many of us haven't really blogged for a while, too. :/

Rich said...

I've noticed some of that too but I think that the moho community is still rather strong. Just be willing to reach out to those who share your common beliefs and discard those that don't.

Beck said...

We are out here, we are still strong, we are not going away. Some of us have been here when the "community" was only a pocket full of bloggers and it was easier to have the support you allude to. The size of the community is one factor of "what happened". Some may be going the direction you suggest, but if you look, there are many who are not evolving as you describe and are there to support you in your same quest!

playasinmar said...

Did some blogger guy dump you?

I tease, I tease.

But seriously, "normal" is gay guys dating gay guys. Obviously, that's something you'll never do but for those that do... they'll miss the Hug Master if he withdraws again!

The blogs have always been written by celibate and regular gay mormons. Nothing changed.

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isakson said...

I agree with you. It is a lot different from when I started reading. Some of my friends and I were discussing this as we headed off to the Matis FHE last monday. I don't know why it is, but I know what i'll do if the trend continues or gets worse.

Silus Grok said...

A little from my perspective, for whatever it's worth.

I've been online since 1994. But I've only blogged for about three years. That's not terribly long, compared to some bloggers, but pretty long compared to most MoHos. And while I've been lucky enough to write a few pieces that garnered wide-spread attention, I've never really been a part of the "community" that you speak of. Yes, I read a couple dozen MoHo blogs… I even comment on a couple. But I've not made the effort I could have to reach out and connect with my blogging MoHo peers.


Partly because that I'd rather stay plugged into the larger LDS blogging community, and I have to ration my time. Partly because what most MoHos seem to want more than anything is advice on issues that no one but their personal ecclesiastical leaders and psychotherapists could be even remotely qualified to answer. Partly my own impatience with what appears to be a lot of whining peppered with the occasional gem post (whining being a blogosphere-wide problem).

Instead, I tend to stick to writing on a wide range of topics on my personal blog; writing the occasional long piece over at Nine Moons; and socializing with my real-live neighbors.

And I find that approach really fulfilling.

So what does that have to do with your post?

Well, first off, hopefully you realize that there are other active, LDS, gay bloggers out there. And while we don't always post on MoHo subjects or comment on MoHo blogs, we're still here. And we're rooting for you.

And secondly, I hope it points-up that the emotionally balanced approach to being a MoHo includes an emotionally balanced approach to blogging. If you're not happy hanging out with MoHos who have altogether too much time on their hands (as evidenced by their antics), you are very much welcome to come play with those of us on the outside.

: )

playasinmar said...

We're all rooting for you, Gimple. You have no enemies here.

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Hidden said...

Stupid spelling errors...This is a FANTASTIC post and one that I stand by whole-heartedly.

MoHos are becoming increasingly casual and the gospel seems to be less and less important.

Some of us aren't okay with it.

Don't be afraid to speak the truth, Gimple, my friend.

salad said...

you make some very valid points my friend

Brady said...

I'm with you 100% on this one!

Original Mohomie said...

Wait...where's all the hooking up happening? Why do I always miss the fun?

Not sure I share this concern, but I've only been partially active in the blog scene for less than a year, and I'm probably one of the more secular-sounding voices, so what do I know?

I will say that I'm glad there are more voices creating more dialog. I think your concerns are common to any society beginning to open up and diversify. The added voices are uncomfortable at times, and for those who were part of the more closed, simpler community, it's unsettling. I can understand that.