Physical Attraction

One opinion of homosexuality that I have had over the years has started to change drastically as I have experienced life and talked with friends. I remember me saying that my attractions are so much more than physical and that I do not really understand why people are so caught up in the physical. I have discovered that I was lying to myself and to others and that others are lying to themselves too.

I hear people say all the time that their attractions and homosexuality in general is so much more than physical and that the deeper level of attractions (emotional, character, etc.) are what define who they are attracted to. If this was true, then it would be easy to marry a woman and we would not have to worry too much about having physical attraction problems in that marriage. It is easy to find a woman attractive in many different levels, at least for me it is. So why do we not marry a woman? The answer is simple than most people think--physical attractions play a greater role than emotional. That is why most MoHos are afraid to get close to women and start a relationship with them. They know that physical has a huge role, but then they lie to themselves in situations that involve men.

Physical attractions are what usually begin the interest in someone and start the infamous crush. A crush usually causes people to get to know each other or at least want to get to know each other. As the relationship develops, emotional attractions and deeper level attractions start to form. When these start to form, people start to throw out physical attractions. The problem with doing that is that people are lying to themselves. The physical is still there very strongly. The physical is what makes you want to cuddle, kiss, hug, and have sex with the person you are crushing on or in love with. If it is not there, we would not want to do any of those things with someone.