Attraction

06 September 2007
I do not get why people put so much emphasis on physical attraction. I think emotional, spiritual, and intellectual attraction is much more important than physical! In fact, I have been noticing (as well as others) that I do not walk in a room and see who is the hottest guy there. People ask me who I think is hot in the room and I start looking around. They are then surprised to see me looking around. They wonder why I have not noticed before. In my opinion, People just need to look past the physical and see what great relationships they can have, even if they are not physically attracted to the other person.

There will be up and coming post on this topic. I just wanted to get this off my chest.

9 comments:

playasinmar said...

"I do not get why people put so much emphasis on physical attraction."

Really? You really don't understand the emphasis on physical attraction?

mulan said...

Haha, that's exactly what happens to me! I never notice who's hot, while the rest of my female friends (oh wait, my gay friends too :D) pick out all the hottest guys right away. I just don't get why it's such a big deal.

Other people are always pointing out to me that Romulus is pretty good-looking, haha... don't get me wrong though, I did notice after a while :P

Gimple said...

Playa, it is true. I really don't understand it. I have never really looked at looks. I have always gone by personality and other things. I do notice looks, but it is not the first thing I see. I usually read more into a person by watching how they act around others and their body language. You can tell so much more about a person by the way they act, move, and whatever else they do when they think nobody is looking.

I see some guys and girls that aren't very physically attractive as the most beautiful people that I've seen. It just isn't something that I tend to notice or care much about.

drex said...

I'm just conceited enough that I think I get a good surface reading of people's personalities from how they look. I typically do notice who the good-looking people in a room are. It's not necessarily the first thing I do, but it happens while I'm evaluating everyone around me. It's not conscious, and it takes someone asking me or me asking myself to bring it up to the surface of thought, but it's there.

The way I have always looked at things, I am very superficial in attraction to guys - looking for physical characteristics before all else - but I look past physical attraction when dealing with girls. And I am proof that if emotional, spiritual, etc. attraction exists, physical attraction can be cultivated.

Brady said...

This is a topic of deep interest for me. I'm trying to find the proper role of physical attraction in my life. It seems to me that the vast majority of successful long-term relationships are helped by a certain level of physical attraction.

But I know that there's far more to relationships than that. So I'm just trying to figure out the proper role of it and decide how much of it I can do without.

As for the walking into a room and checking people out thing, I'd say your sentiment is not entirely uncommon. I know for me, I don't usually consciously look around for the attractive people, and my perception usually changes as people start talking and showing their personality anyways. A certain amount of "checking out" does happen subconsciously though, and I think this is a fairly common thing. It's hardwired.

playasinmar said...

"I'm trying to find the proper role of physical attraction in my life." -Brady

Sounds a little like you're trying to mold natural attractions into something else... hmmm...

:P

Annabelle said...

I, too, wish people would look past the physical. I think that physical attractiveness gets focused on so much that a lot of people don't bother to even get to know who is on the inside. And let me tell you, there are some amazing people inside some less-than-perfect exteriors. :)

Felicity said...

I would be lying if I said I didn't notice physical appearance, and I do find it easier to be attracted to someone if I like looking at them. But I have definitely found that I become more attracted to somebody due to personality more than anything else. So, physical attraction is important, I think, but not the most important part of a relationship.

And that's my 2 cents on the matter.

Some Like It Hot said...

Sometimes I wish I had the ability to not look. All I do is look around to see where the good looking people are.